Monday, March 5, 2012
RELATiONSHiPS HAVE STAGES ♥
Today is the day of equalibrium of my relationship (i.e X total days we was together = X total days we break off)
Because of this matter i am emotionally disturbed for the whole day... :( on one hand my co-worker has fallen ill, so i have to help him to complete this MOU drafts as meeting will be tomorrow...on the other i have my own MOU to complete as well as my agents are waiting for my reply too...plus today is the equilibrium day to add on...total today is a bad day :(
Though i may have work to do, but i am not afraid of them because as i have confident to complete them all in few hours, however i just can't focus well today cuz of equalibrium day...this is an important day to me personally as i believed before the due of the equilibrium day, our relationships are still strong and chances to get back together are still high, however after the equilibrium day, chances of getting back together are reduced from 50% to >5% overnight
Well though we still communicate like good friends daily, but somehow after conversation i just always feel like always talking to the person i love but on the other hand i need to force myself to talk to you in a friend tone...this mix feeling is just so difficult :( deep down i just want to talk to you as the girl i always admired and love but, on the other hand i need to control myself and be well behave...sigh its just not natural.... :( i am just not sure what this feeling is....
After a whole day of being emo, i did some research and below are the findings of relationships, i noticed that all relationships comes with stages and somehow the findings of the relationships are below
.....i love you WC, and i hope the myricles does occur soon...i can't do much but just hope and wait...just hope and wait....hope....hope...hope................................
STAGE 1 (1-3 Months): The Honeymoon Stage
Everything seems perfect, both are happy and feeling “in love.” You share moments, dates and just having fun with each other, sharing laughs and giggles. It’s like nothing could stop you. Your feelings are infinite, and for once you’re thinking, “This may work out….” and it seems like nothing could go wrong. You spend hours getting ready before going out with this person.
*If your relationship ended in this stage — Most likely, both rushed into the relationship too quickly. Being together was all too sudden and just for the moment. When one starts noticing the flaws, one gets a choice to move foward, or back away. Being friends has a high percentage of working out, but nothing to stress over. Both may just need the time to get to know one another better.
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STAGE 2 (4-6 months): The Bumpy Road
Things are going okay now. The relationship is calm and settled; both are still mostly happy. Had a couple arguments and disagreements here and there, nothing huge. Start to notice some of each other’s flaws and aspects of their personalities not seen before, but still truly care for one another.
*If your relationship ended in this stage — You truly cared about this person. You had the energy to fight for this person, yet you feel as if something was lacking, something was missing. It doesn’t feel right, one isn’t happy. When one isn’t happy, one tends to walk away to seek their new happiness. Being friends is still a possibility.
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STAGE 3 (7-12 months): The Rocky Mountain
You start to realize who your partner really is. A few more arguments may occur. Problems with jealously, overprotectiveness may arise. Other people may come in the picture. The “in love” moments start to decrease, but you feel as if you’ve “fallen in love.” You tend to have this energy inside to strive and “make it work,” and you feel more comfortable being around this person, feeling more of yourself.
*If your relationship ends in this stage — You feel as if you’re hurt, depending on the circumstances. You were so sure that that person was “The One.” You were so SURE that he/she was different. But like a cancer, a problem that may have happened, a small issue, grew into something larger that took over what was made between two people. You still miss this person from time to time. You still remember the memories. Being friends may be difficult right away, but over time, you slowly mature up, and learn the reality of it.
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STAGE 4 (1 year or more): The Long Road
1, 2, 3, 4, 5 years, huh? This person truly means something to you. You are “in love” with this person. He/she made a difference in your life. No one else knows you more than this person. You guys have been through the good, the bad, and the ugly, and still strive to make it last.
*If your relationship ends in this stage — You feel heartbroken; it’s tough. You can’t sleep, can’t eat, you miss him/her, you try to move on, you try meeting new people, but seems like nothing works. For whatever reason the split occured, it must’ve been something important, or something must have been so wrong that it took over. Being “just friends” is impossible, because if you tried to be friends, you wouldn’t be able to think of them in any other way besides the one you once “loved.”
Monday, February 20, 2012
Feeling of Reminiscent
One month ago, at this very second (7:30pm) marks the bitter moment of my another journey. i could still remember it was a rainy day and it was the eve of the lunar new year 2012. I could still remember i was instructed to collect an important document from the Ministry Department before everyone call it a break for the holiday.
At that time, the traffic at the city centre was terrible and all land transports moves bumper by bumper. i was looking at my time anxiously to get back to office to fetch her back. Unfortunately things got even worse when the weather starts pouring even heavier and thus i am unable to call her to inform her on the delay. to safe time further, i tried to ramp through the emergency lane and tried my best to exit into the highway. as i approaching the National Parliament my phone finally rank and it was a call from her. i unfortunately due to bad weather, we had tried several time to communicate but she just can't hear my voice over the phone. By that time i was already 45 mins late from the initial meeting up time, and on top of that we are unable to communicate with each other clearly, eventually....she demanded a break off from our relationship. of course i understood the reason of the break off is not off this matter, but other pressures she is facing throughout our relationship from co-workers, my parents and my personality as well.
All that had occurred one month ago and today, it has been a month since we are no longer together. I had tried several times, to persuade, to comfort, to talk about the possibility of getting back together however all attempts failed. And this kind of situation had brought me back to the reminiscent of my previous relationships when i again failed in securing my hope of a good, long lasting relationship.
From the Reminiscent of the past i could remember the following lessons taught by all my Exs and how i should really learn those and not failed in the future attempt again.
Reminiscent lessons 1 by my 1st ex-
Chapter 1) She taught me how to spend and relax as and when necessary, in life there is no point of keeping too much money in banks and assets if i do not know how to spend it during special day, celebrations and to needy charity
Chapter 2) She taught me how to be more socialised, through out a relationship do not just stick to the world of two and we must not forget the other persons around us including, friends, relatives and family.
Chapter 3)She taught me how to keep the 'Promises'. As words are easily said out from the big mouth, it is also wise for one to 'Think before talking'. Never ever in life say the word 'i promise you' or 'i will do that for you' if you know you are not committed in delivering it. only promise to a person if and only if you really meant it, and by rain or shine must fulfil the promises made even though it is delivered late as there is a saying, its better to be late than never.
Reminiscent lessons 2 by my 2nd ex-
Chapter 1) In my young adult life i was bombarded with work, relationship and studies . and thus taking own health is a big thing as there is no point of getting good results, good pay but without getting a good health.
Chapter 2) Exercise as and when there are time, make full use of my free time to do jogging, and sports around
Chapter 3) Read up articles on health, it is good to always take note of the total dairy supplement in order to maintain health. all meals need to be balanced and do not be choosy of food served, always help the needy and those who need help
Chapter 4) Cookery Skills, she is the only one who has always prepared meals for me. And since i am a reasonable cook at home, she always became my new dishes tester subjects and give comments on how to improve my cookery
Reminiscent lessons 3 by my 3rd ex-
Chapter 1) Relationship or marriage is not a matter of two people, but its a connections of two families.
Chapter 2) Its time to grow up, do not be too needy and cinchy in a relationship, sometimes its good to give both parties some 'space of free time'
Chapter 3) Family Values, in life we must not only care and pursue our own personal dreams, but also need to pay good attention of respect to our parents.
Chapter 4) Tried to avoid parents and girlfriend face to face meeting during the early stage of new relationship as early meeting with parents on relationship matters could create a lot of pressures.
Well those are the lessons i learned out from what i had failed previously. i hope i am able to learn those lessons full heartily and...hope i wont disappoint any one in my future attempts...
A Reminiscence
Yes, thou art gone! and never more;
thy sunny smile shall gladded me;
but i may pass the old church door,
and pace the floor that cover three.
May stand upon the cold, damp stone,
and think that, frozen, lies below
the lightest heart that i have known,
the kindest i shall very know.
yet, though i cannot see three more,
'Tis still a comfort to have seen;
and though thy transient life is o'er,
'Tis sweet to think that thou hast been;
To think a soul so near divine,
Within a form so angel fair,
united to a heart like thine,
has gladdended once our humble sphere.
Lastly, I Love You so much 'Lim WC'
I really hope we can get back together, we what we were last time... ♥ ♥ ♥
At that time, the traffic at the city centre was terrible and all land transports moves bumper by bumper. i was looking at my time anxiously to get back to office to fetch her back. Unfortunately things got even worse when the weather starts pouring even heavier and thus i am unable to call her to inform her on the delay. to safe time further, i tried to ramp through the emergency lane and tried my best to exit into the highway. as i approaching the National Parliament my phone finally rank and it was a call from her. i unfortunately due to bad weather, we had tried several time to communicate but she just can't hear my voice over the phone. By that time i was already 45 mins late from the initial meeting up time, and on top of that we are unable to communicate with each other clearly, eventually....she demanded a break off from our relationship. of course i understood the reason of the break off is not off this matter, but other pressures she is facing throughout our relationship from co-workers, my parents and my personality as well.
All that had occurred one month ago and today, it has been a month since we are no longer together. I had tried several times, to persuade, to comfort, to talk about the possibility of getting back together however all attempts failed. And this kind of situation had brought me back to the reminiscent of my previous relationships when i again failed in securing my hope of a good, long lasting relationship.
From the Reminiscent of the past i could remember the following lessons taught by all my Exs and how i should really learn those and not failed in the future attempt again.
Reminiscent lessons 1 by my 1st ex-
Chapter 1) She taught me how to spend and relax as and when necessary, in life there is no point of keeping too much money in banks and assets if i do not know how to spend it during special day, celebrations and to needy charity
Chapter 2) She taught me how to be more socialised, through out a relationship do not just stick to the world of two and we must not forget the other persons around us including, friends, relatives and family.
Chapter 3)She taught me how to keep the 'Promises'. As words are easily said out from the big mouth, it is also wise for one to 'Think before talking'. Never ever in life say the word 'i promise you' or 'i will do that for you' if you know you are not committed in delivering it. only promise to a person if and only if you really meant it, and by rain or shine must fulfil the promises made even though it is delivered late as there is a saying, its better to be late than never.
Reminiscent lessons 2 by my 2nd ex-
Chapter 1) In my young adult life i was bombarded with work, relationship and studies . and thus taking own health is a big thing as there is no point of getting good results, good pay but without getting a good health.
Chapter 2) Exercise as and when there are time, make full use of my free time to do jogging, and sports around
Chapter 3) Read up articles on health, it is good to always take note of the total dairy supplement in order to maintain health. all meals need to be balanced and do not be choosy of food served, always help the needy and those who need help
Chapter 4) Cookery Skills, she is the only one who has always prepared meals for me. And since i am a reasonable cook at home, she always became my new dishes tester subjects and give comments on how to improve my cookery
Reminiscent lessons 3 by my 3rd ex-
Chapter 1) Relationship or marriage is not a matter of two people, but its a connections of two families.
Chapter 2) Its time to grow up, do not be too needy and cinchy in a relationship, sometimes its good to give both parties some 'space of free time'
Chapter 3) Family Values, in life we must not only care and pursue our own personal dreams, but also need to pay good attention of respect to our parents.
Chapter 4) Tried to avoid parents and girlfriend face to face meeting during the early stage of new relationship as early meeting with parents on relationship matters could create a lot of pressures.
Well those are the lessons i learned out from what i had failed previously. i hope i am able to learn those lessons full heartily and...hope i wont disappoint any one in my future attempts...
A Reminiscence
Yes, thou art gone! and never more;
thy sunny smile shall gladded me;
but i may pass the old church door,
and pace the floor that cover three.
May stand upon the cold, damp stone,
and think that, frozen, lies below
the lightest heart that i have known,
the kindest i shall very know.
yet, though i cannot see three more,
'Tis still a comfort to have seen;
and though thy transient life is o'er,
'Tis sweet to think that thou hast been;
To think a soul so near divine,
Within a form so angel fair,
united to a heart like thine,
has gladdended once our humble sphere.
Lastly, I Love You so much 'Lim WC'
I really hope we can get back together, we what we were last time... ♥ ♥ ♥
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